set very high and sometimes unrealistic standards for themselves and
perhaps for those around them. They self-flagellate and nit-pick over
minor mistakes. This all leads to high levels of stress (added to the
stress of increased workload through not delegating and not saying
‘No’ when asked to take on yet more). They may think negatively
and decry their own achievements (‘anyone could do that!), and they
make be reluctant to appear weak and to ask for help when required.
can be bad to be too good!
addition, perfectionists are often people pleasers, keen to be
thought ‘nice’ and to not cause offence. This can lead to an
overly deferential style and a fear of confrontation or conflict.
They can spend their lives constantly pleasing others and never
perfectionists can be idealists with high moral codes. They may for
example be vegetarian and disparaging of meat eaters. They may work
hard to help others, beating themselves up in moments of (only human)
selfishness or weakness. They may be constantly sickened, upset and
disappointed by the world. Consequently, they may prefer to work with
things, which further benefit from being more controllable and
you are a perfectionist, you no doubt need to lighten up, have more
fun, laugh, recognise when you are going too far and understand that
is more realistic than Perfection!!!
questionnaires (interests, values and personality measures) and a
personal history/objective form will be completed in advance, so I
will already know quite a lot about you by the time you arrive.
aptitude assessment (seven types of reasoning) starts at 9.30am, and
takes about 2 1/2 hours and is marked immediately.
a break for lunch (provided), there is a. career consultation /
counselling discussion of about 2 1/2 hours. The length of the
discussion is dependent on client needs - I see only one person per
day so I am happy to overrun if necessary to ensure that the
individual’s objective is met and that s/he is satisfied.
detailed bespoke report will be sent within two weeks of the career
analysis and design consultation.
fees are due on the day. I accept cheque, BACS or Credit Card
payment, which can be made over the Internet through Paypal.
coaching consultations are held in my comfortable and personal office
at my home in London SW16 (Tooting/Streatham borders)